May 20, 2009

Time | Another Milestone Event

Just two weeks after my daughter graduated from college, my son, Brandon, will graduate from high school tomorrow. It's hard to believe he will be 18 in July and a freshman in college in August. The thought of being an empty nester is a little scary. I have been very fortunate to have a close relationship with both my kids. With Brandon going off to school, no one will be around to punch me in the arm, tickle me, blow on the back of my neck, wrestle with me, bowl with me, shoot hoops in the driveway, travel to Colorado College hockey games, and go to Nuggets and Avalanche games with me.

The time has certainly flown by. No longer am I looking at a curly-haired chubby faced little boy. Today Brandon towers over me and is built like a beast. Though the cuddling days are long gone I am fortunate to get a good hug every now and then. Not the most open about what's going on in his life, Brandon does occasionally share some personal information, and in time, I'm certain he will realize I can be a resource to him. In this respect he and his sister are total opposites. Lauren is "My life is an open book" whereas Brandon is "My life is a sealed vault." They tell me that is one of the differences between boys and girls. All this time I thought the only differences were anatomical.

I am so excited for Brandon. Yes, the tears I have been shedding for the past several months are tears of happiness. My four years at Colorado College were four of the best years of my life. I am so hopeful that Brandon is about to embark on four of the best years of his life. This is a kid with great potential. Brandon is fortunate to have been blessed with the ability to work with numbers. He is entering the business school at Colorado University, something few Freshmen are able to do. He is going to explore a degree in accounting and is then likely to graduate and go into some sort of business. These are his plans, at least as of today. What I know for sure is that whatever he decides to do he will be a huge success. Brandon is a good kid. He has a big heart. He cares for other people even though he's far to cool to admit it. He is very conscientious at his job. He is a fine young man, and I am very proud of him.

As I think about the graduation ceremony and Brandon's future, I can't help but think about the song written by Cat Stevens (now known as Yusuf Islam) called Father and Son. This is the message I would like to send to Brandon:

Go to College, take advantage of this time
Just relax, take it easy
Don't put too much pressure on yourself
You're still young, that's your fault
There's so much you have to know
Make some friends
Go to parties
Study hard and get good grades
Meet a girl
Open up
Share something about your life
There's so much you have to go through
I know it's hard, but remember
I was once like you are now
And I know that it's not easy
To be calm when you've found
Something going on
But take your time, think a lot
Well think of everything you've got
For you will still be here tomorrow
But your dreams may not
And no matter what you may do
Always remember that I love you
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